The Quiet Poison of Resentment

Resentment is something most of us carry at some point. Either it’s because of how someone treated us, what they said (or didn’t say), or how a situation played out that felt unfair. Time and time again.

It starts small. Maybe it’s a grudge or a little bitterness that we push aside. But over time, if we don’t deal with it, resentment GROWS.

 It doesn’t hurt the other person as much as it hurts YOU. And it will last a very long time. 

Resentment changes you. It hardens your heart. It makes you quicker to anger, less trusting, more distant. Eventually, it can turn you into someone you barely recognize. Someone angry, guarded, maybe even cynical. You start to carry the weight of past pain into every new moment. And that’s exhausting. For everyone. Especially you.

The worst part? Resentment feels justified. That’s why it’s so hard to let go of. You feel like you deserve to be angry, and maybe you do. But staying there & holding onto it, doesn’t bring peace. It just keeps the wound wide open.

I've been told that I'm cynical and intimidating. It's likely because resentment has hardened me. Don't allow it to do that to you. 

Letting go of resentment is not easy though. It doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a slow process of recognizing it, being honest about how it’s affecting you, and deciding again and again that you don’t want to carry it anymore. It takes so much work. Sometimes therapy. Sometimes deep self-reflection. And a lot of patience with yourself.

But it is possible. It can be done. Over time, with small steps and honest effort, you can loosen resentment’s grip. And what you find on the other side?? peace, softness, and a more open heart. It is worth every bit of that effort.

 You weren’t meant to live angry. You were meant to be free.